How do I move forward...

I understand your situation. The trust that forms the foundation of a relationship has shattered completely. In a state of despair, it’s easy to make irreparable mistakes you might later regret. But right now, you need to show wisdom and composure. Your reaction will determine the fate of your marriage. Moreover, how you handle this with your husband will also affect your personal well-being. It’s important not to lose your sense of dignity and self-respect or drown in resentment and destructive emotions.

This is very difficult for you right now—your world has collapsed, as you’ve said. But this state won’t last forever. Don’t fixate solely on the fact that your partner cheated. It’s important to analyze the state of your relationship with your husband as a whole before this incident. Perhaps something pushed him to take this step, so you should examine the hidden cracks in your marriage.

Now is the time to think about the future of your relationship. There’s no single correct or incorrect path here.

How do you live with a man who has cheated? Should you forgive his betrayal or end the marriage? This choice will be one of the hardest in your life. On one hand, years of shared history, attachment—all of it pushes you to preserve the family. But on the other, betrayal is betrayal. Whether to forgive it or not is your personal decision, your right.

If you lean toward forgiveness, keep in mind that ahead lies a difficult path of rebuilding trust and restoring harmony in your relationship. Both of you will need to put in enormous effort to correct mistakes—not just in the marriage but within yourselves.

Sometimes, divorce is also a solution. Divorce isn’t a verdict but an opportunity for a new life. But even here, there are pitfalls, from property division to the long recovery after emotional trauma. Perhaps you’ll need time to weigh all the pros and cons.

Right now, it’s important for you to maintain respect for yourself as an individual. Don’t slip into the role of a victim, don’t torment yourself with endless ‘why?’ and ‘why me?’ questions. Infidelity is his mistake and his problem, not your personal shame. Value your human dignity above any resentment.

At this difficult moment, it’s more important than ever to take care of yourself. Engage in hobbies and interests that will distract you from these emotions. It might be worth consulting a psychologist to professionally work through the trauma. Gradually, you’ll need to develop strategies to restore your self-esteem and confidence.

The main thing is not to shut yourself off in a shell of resentment but to use this situation as a springboard for personal growth.